Wednesday, September 19, 2012
What a relief!
In my last post, I said this:
"is it unrealistic to want or expect someone who is your 'friend' to call you back?"
Last Thursday, September 13, I received this response:
This is what Bishop T. D. Jakes said,
“I can’t be committed to everything. I can’t join everything. I can’t be married to a thousand women. I can’t work a thousand jobs. I can’t join five churches. Because I take my commitment too seriously to spread it around loosely. It costs too much. I see a lot of people now I like, that interest me and intrigue me and I would like to be friends, but I don’t become friends with them because I understand that REAL friendship is an investment. And there’s not anymore of me to go around, so we will be nice and we’ll be casual acquaintances. Because I understand REAL friendship is a commitment: It means I will be there for you. It means I will return your calls. It means I’ve got your back. It means that I will emotionally, spiritually, financially do whatever I can to undergird you. And I can’t do that with everybody.”
“IT’S A COMMITMENT. THERE’S MORE TO IT THAN BEING NICE. FRIENDSHIP IS A COMMITMENT.”
I mean come on.......THAT ONE specific act, of returning a call, was THE ONLY SPECIFIC act he mentioned.....
he didn't say, "I'll remember your birthday" or "I won't steal your husband."
he said, "It means I will return your calls."
I don't know about you,
but that's a WOW for me.
and I'm glad to finally know more about the relationship we call "Friendship." I now know according to a pretty wise dude, REAL FRIENDS call you back. I agree with him.
It's still a wonderful and complex world, with many joyous things to do.
ps: BTW, that means I was right. Friends call friends back. Associates don't. Don't ever try to make a bunch of associates your friends! And most definitely DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT try to make them your family that you never had.......it will most certainly blow up in your face.